He said: if Barack Obama has time for a relationship, so do you.
The other night, a good friend and I sat at a Tim Horton’s until 3am and chatted about life. (Why do all the best conversations always happen at insane hours?) The topic of relationships came up and he asked “so are you seeing anyone?” and the conversation went a little like this.
“No, I don’t really have time for a relationship.”
“I’m calling you out on your bullshit right now.”
“What do you mean?”
“Anyone can have time. If Barack Obama has time for a relationship, so do you. But you choose not to spend time on it.”
He was right. Not to say there’s anything wrong with how I prioritize my life, but it’s the fact that in the past, I really didn’t take ownership over my choices. I used “I’m too busy” as an excuse when really, there was a more legitimate reason why I chose to prioritize one thing over another.
I said, “I don’t have time” as an easy escape to keep my walls up and justify the fact that I simply didn’t want to go on a date. Especially when I didn’t have any other legitimate reason for turning someone down, time–or the lack thereof–was my scapegoat.
After my conversation with my friend, I realized that I needed to stop making excuses for myself and start being more brave with the choices I make. I want to take more ownership of my time and own up to my decisions. We all get the same 24 hours and I want to feel in control of them.